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L is for the Little things…

Little_things_up_closeI recently had a conversation with my mom that really made me stop and think. I had been sharing some of my parenting frustrations with her regarding the boys, and she said something entirely unrelated that made something click in my head: I’ve stopped listening to my kids. Sure, I "hear" Ben or Isaiah, but I’ve forgotten to listen, to really hear what it is they are telling me. It was one of those "aha" parenting moments where I just kind of sat back and thought for a while. I am not sure where it started. Maybe it’s just the fact that three noisy toddlers will create quite a din that you almost have to learn to tune out the nonsense, like when they are arguing over who stared at who first, or which dinosaur growled the loudest. But I kind of stopped listening to them when they were trying to tell me something important, like how they felt about a situation. I had kind of forgotten that Ben is going through a huge transition into school. Forgotten isn’t the right word. I know on an intellectual, emotional mommy level that he is going through a transition. But I failed to let Ben tell me that he was going through a huge transition. Forgot to hear his heart.

The thing is, when I stop to listen to the kids, I see and hear things that I would totally fail to notice on my own, or even pay attention to. But to a child, these things are huge momentous events. And you know what? I think they’re right. They see mountains and rivers in a piece of sidewalk, universes in a single cloud formation. It’s almost as if they truly see the big picture. They have an amazing sense of wonder about the little things. I want to remember that. I want to see the little things for what they truly are: a necessary and vital piece in a bigger puzzle that is glorious and wonderful. And that includes really listening to my kids.

One response to “L is for the Little things…”

  1. gigi Avatar

    sweetie…YOU are amazing…thanks so much for the reminder. you are SO right! & i love how you characterized it as “glorious & wonderful” ..THAT is so perfect!!!
    hope you are having a great wednesday!

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